Staying Connected to Each Other with a foundation of Godly wisdom
Ever heard the passage in Matthew 11, where it talks about how God's yoke is easy and his burden is light? Well if you are like me, sometimes it may not feel like that. With everything you have to juggle like careers, kids, finances, housework, yardwork, meal time, making time for friends and family it can often feel like you are just keeping your head above water. When that is happening it is very hard to feel like you have an easy yoke around you.
Here is the good news. If you are feeling this way, first of all you are completely normal. Second and maybe most important is that these feelings and beliefs may be happening because you are not focused on God. He never told us we would be without trials, but rather that He would be with us in the midst of them. Now He did also tell us that He would not give us more than we could bear as well which might not give us much solace in the moment but can ultimately help us to see that we won't truly go under.
What helps me sort of all this out is to acknowledge that yes these situations in life might be difficult but that my relationship with God according to His word will not be difficult. So I would encourage you to constantly be asking God to reveal what you might be learning in the midst of a trial. For me this came up as I was simply thinking about how difficult Mondays can be.
Mondays are difficult for me, because a whole week with lots of challenges lie ahead. It is also difficult because sleep patterns and eating patterns have taken a big (and not so healthy) shift over the the weekend. Monday is that day to get back on track. So I recently found myself asking God if he could just take Mondays away. But there is a big issue with this. If He were to take Monday away, then Tuesday would actually begin to feel like Monday. So I started to realize there is no point in asking for this.
What I started to do instead is ask how having Mondays might help. I soon realized that without Mondays, the other days as we move toward the end of the week would not feel so good. I need those early days to make the later in the week days feel that much more special.
So what in the world does this have to do with being a busy Christian married couple. What does it have to do with simple marriage guidance for busy Christian married couples? The point here is that there are some very simple things you can do to stay connected.
Prioritizing Quality Time and Communication
In today's fast-paced world, many couples, including Christian ones, find themselves overwhelmed with work, family, and other responsibilities. It is so important to prioritize quality time together and open communication as essential elements of a healthy Christian marriage.
A few quick tips might involve making sure to scheduling regular date nights, setting aside time for prayer and Bible study together, and creating a safe space for honest conversations.
Now if you are reading this and don't feel like you have the time, there are a few things I can recommend. Start with a small amount of time. So for the conversations, commit to just 10 minutes a day. For the date nights, if you can't get away or don't have the finances, then think about doing something at home after the kids go to bed.
Balancing Faith and Responsibilities
Busy Christian married couples often have a tough time with this one. I often hear couples say they don't have time for church or even don't have the money to tithe. Typically the reason I hear this is that when stacking up the list of priorities, things like church attendance, or gathering together in a small group with other Christian married couples, or even tithing are placed near the bottom.
So often when something is placed at the bottom it becomes the first to be scratched off the list when there is no time. So the best and most simple simple marriage guidance for busy Christian couples we can give here is to be intentional. Make a decision to ensure that things like bible reading or prayer go at the top of the list.
Heather and I subscribe to a "verse of the day." In the morning over coffee, we read it discuss it, and pray about it. Usually this take about 10 minutes. That's it! Then we might play a word game on the phone that takes 5 minutes. Then finally we quickly discuss the day and then go finish getting ready.
Seeking Support and Accountability
If the previous simple marriage guidance for you as a busy Christian married couple is not working well, then you may want to try getting some support. Now the first type of support can come from each other. It would be great if you could each hold each other accountable to make sure you are spending quality time together and that you are prioritizing what is important.
If you are having difficulty prioritizing, then seeking outside help could be beneficial. We would recommend starting with a trusted couple that is either in a similar position in life or maybe a step ahead. Let them know what you struggle with and how you want to be held accountable. If you want to return the favor, ask them if there is anything that they need help with.
Conclusion
Hopefully as you have read, this guidance isn't complicated. After all, when you make things complicated that tends to cause the thing you want to do not to happen. So just like the simple marriage guidance for busy Christian married couples that you have seen in this article, make sure that you are keeping it simple to increase the chances of success.
Don't forget to grab the FREE "10 Practical Communication Strategies Guide" to help you both communicate more effectively and to increase your connection. Implementing these communication strategies will also help you implement some of these simple strategies we talked about as well.
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