How many of you have tried to complete a project together as a couple? Did it go well, or did you decide never to do it again? Depending on how the experience progressed and the emotions you felt throughout the process, your answer might vary. This article will help you rethink the “never again” mindset and provide tips for successfully completing a project with your spouse.
Project Preparation for Couples
If you’re not into planning and making lists, that might be why the project didn’t go as well as you envisioned. It’s time to create a list, organize supplies, and learn how to complete the project effectively. Use resources like YouTube and Google to gather information. We recommend that both of you watch videos and read articles. Knowledge is power! Also, seek advice from others who have completed similar projects. Some experts even have ready-made lists of materials you’ll need. Shop together for items like tile, paint, plants, or floor coverings. Express your opinions lovingly and listen to each other’s hearts as you make decisions together.
Maintaining Constant Communication
It can be tempting for one of you to adopt a “take charge” attitude and declare yourself the project boss. Or, perhaps, both of you want to be in control. While this is tempting, you should tread lightly. Discuss your strengths and weaknesses. Express which parts of the project you feel most comfortable with and which parts you’d rather avoid. Decide together who will do what and encourage each other along the way.
For example, my husband Brian and I are installing a brick wall in our basement. I love puzzles, so I drew the cut lines on the bricks. Brian, excited about using his new saw, opted for the cutting. We communicated carefully, mindful of each other’s feelings. Doing this kept our stress levels down and our spirits up.
As each part of the project progresses, continually discuss how the previous steps went, what you will do next, and how it will get done. Watch more videos if needed. Check in with each other, especially if you notice stress or frustration. Asking if your spouse needs a break, water, or help goes a long way in showing you care. Take breaks to rest and rejuvenate.
Timing Is Everything in Project Planning
It’s okay to take breaks because exhaustion can lead to mistakes and frustration. Plan your project with the goal of completing it together rather than setting a strict deadline. If there is a deadline, plan accordingly. Take your time, get plenty of rest, and do other things in between the project. This can help create good memories whenever you see the outcome of your labor. Don’t give up; instead, take breaks and take care of yourself and each other.
Starting Your Project with Prayer
The first thing you NEED to do is pray! It may sound cliché, but God cares about the “small” things you do in life because He loves you and loves marriage. Pray for wisdom, strong communication, and patience. Prayer is the most powerful tool in your tool belt.
Gather All Supplies Before Starting
Locate and collect all the supplies needed for the job. Keep them in a designated area to avoid interruptions. This helps maintain the rhythm of your workday.
Play Music to Enhance the Experience
Music can bring a wealth of emotions. It doesn’t matter if it’s upbeat or relaxing. The idea is that music can take your mind off any frustration you feel. It gives you something to sing or dance to. Turn on something you both enjoy as you start creating something together.
Emotional Check-ins During the Project
As you work, check in with each other emotionally. Discuss how the project is going, step back to admire your work, and be positive. Give encouraging words and compliments to each other. This can deepen your connection.
Celebrate Your Success Together
Once you’ve completed your project, reward yourselves for a job well done! Cook a special meal or go out to celebrate. Talk about the memories created, how you felt during the process, and how you feel seeing the finished project. Pour compliments on your spouse and thank God for His wisdom and help. Remember, God wants to hear your praises as much as you do.
“May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had.” Romans 15:5
Conclusion
Completing projects together as a married couple can be a rewarding experience with the right preparation, communication, and mindset. By following these tips, you can strengthen your relationship and create lasting memories.
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